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The day I wrecked the tractor and died

25 Wednesday Feb 2015

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I was about 13 years old, and had driven the tractor, specifically the Farmall “H” tractor, for about five years. On that spring afternoon I was returning from the field at the south end of the farm where I had finished harrowing in preparation for planting. (We did that sort of thing in those days.) The smooth lane lay ahead of me along the fence line at the edge of the farm, and I was in fourth gear. I had never driven in High gear, and this was my opportunity. I slipped the gear shift into High and released the clutch and took off. The speed was exhilarating as the fence posts whizzed by. I must have been going twenty miles per hour! I pulled the throttle open a little more. Soon I was approaching the bank where the lane broadened and sloped gradually toward the river bridge, where I knew I would have to slow down.

I was already at the ridges when I realized that I should have slowed earlier. The ridges intersected the lane and were the last visible remnants of the lodges of an Indian village. I had often combed those ridges for abandoned grinding stones, celts, knives, and drills, and I should have remembered that they were there, forming a bumpy area even at slower speeds. Before I knew it I was bounced off the seat, holding onto the steering wheel with all my strength, trying to pull my legs back onto the platform to apply the brakes. Meanwhile the tractor headed toward the creek with the old spring at its head.

Somehow the tractor stopped just at the lip of the bank where the creek had eroded the field. I peered down into the creek bed twenty feet below, and I saw my body there in the creek bed underneath where the tractor had come to rest… in an alternative universe where miracles do not happen. I died that day, or I knew I would have died. My parents would have grieved long and hard and blamed themselves for letting me drive that tractor. There would have been no end to sadness, as we used to say.

I backed the tractor away from the bank and drove it slowly, very slowly, back to the farmyard. I do not know whether I was happier for having been reborn from the dead or more ashamed for having nearly wrecked my parents. I do not know whether they noticed my strange thoughtfulness as the next weeks passed. Perhaps I appeared no different than usual.

Certainly I have thought about that second chance at life many times since. One spring just before Easter fifteen years later I could not shake the memory as I headed toward a farmhouse where a couple had just lost their only son in a farm accident. He was thirteen years old, and he had fallen off the tractor under the disk. What could I say to them?

Oh yes, I still have the “H.” It is my favorite tractor of all time. Like me it has been baptized in murky water and raised from a muddy grave

Thank you, Hue Thi Nguyen!

21 Saturday Feb 2015

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Who could imagine that the decisions of a woman in Vietnam, during and within a few years after the war, would have such a profound impact on our lives? The decisions that Hue made led a decade later to a young man named Au entering our lives as a dancer and the dance partner of our daughter Alicia as they studied at Illinois State University. He brought an amazing story of hardship, endurance, and perseverance, that was matched by his extraordinary determination to do well in his studies, his work, his willingness to tackle any challenges, his open-heartedness, and his love of family. They married in 1990 just before Au’s first return to Vietnam, with his brother Long, to see his mother and grandmother, and to reassure them that their difficult decisions had been worth the sacrifices they had made.

In the next five years came our three wonderful grand-daughters, who have each grown up in the security of parents who have been devoted to their nurture and the development of their minds, hearts, and talents with a depth that few children have known.

We owe a lot to Au, computer and communications technician that he is, and cook, repairman, hunter, painter, martial artist, fisherman, runner, dog-lover, care-giver, mechanic, audio-visual specialist, volunteer….husband, son-in-law, father, son.

Thank you, Hue Thi Nguyen, for the decisions and sacrifices that you made, and for the life that you led. May you enjoy the blessings of heaven forever.   Hue Thi Nguyen, 1950-2015.

Hue Thi Nguyen, 1950-2015

16 Monday Feb 2015

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Hue, which means “Rose” in Vietnamese, was born in Tay Ninh Province, Vietnam, in 1950, the daughter of Do Van Nguyen and Vinh Thi Tran.  Her family moved to Svay Rieng, Cambodia, where she met and married Hung Thanh Nguy in 1966. They had four children, two boys—Long and Au, and two girls—Kia and Mui. Hung and Hue moved to Go Dau, Vietnam, in 1970, where they continued as cross-border traders with Hung’s father, Lao Nguy. Hung was killed on October 19, 1973, and Hue moved to Ho Chi Minh City and established herself as an entrepreneur, owning trucks and passenger vehicles, a business which she conducted the rest of her life.

Hue married Thin Nguyen and they had one daughter, Kim Chi. During the actively anti-Chinese period of the reunited Vietnam, Hue worked to provide a means of escape for her young brother-in-law, Phuong Nguy, and her two sons, Long and Au, so that they would not be caught in the mistreatment of Vietnamese citizens who had Chinese ancestry, or conscripted to serve in the ongoing war in Cambodia, and so that they might have an opportunity for education and a better life.  After several years each of the three boys emigrated to the United States and became citizens. Thin and Kim Chi emigrated to Texas, and he and Hue divorced.

Hue continued to earn a living that supported, not only her own daughters, but also her parents and siblings. As the Vietnamese economy began to flourish in the late 1990’s and 2000’s, she assisted her siblings in getting their own businesses started. She sent Mui to the United States to live with Au and Long at Bloomington, Illinois, in 1991.

Hue married Phap Danh in Ho Chi Minh City around 1988, and they had one daughter, Phong. Phong came to live with Mui and her husband, Kenyatta Stevenson, in 2014, in Miami, Florida.

Hue died on January 19, 2015, at home with her husband, Phap, as a result of complications from diabetes.  Kia and other near family members were with her, and she was aware that Long, Au, Kim Chi, and Phong were flying home to be with her. (Mui remained home with her husband, who was dying with cancer.)

She was buried at Cu Chi, Vietnam, attended by hundreds of family and friends from many places in Vietnam, Cambodia, and the United States.

1918, the worst Christmas ever (from Out of My Hands: Stories of Harold Chapman)

16 Tuesday Dec 2014

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Dad hadn’t stayed far enough away from the man who was sick with the flu but still on his feet. Dad began to complain of aches in his arms and legs, and then chills, and his cough sounded deeper and more persistent. Then Chlora and I got sick  too. Then Mary, our two year old toddler. And three year old Pearl and her twin brother Earl. Mamma  tucked us in bed, made mustard plasters for our chests, and brought in cold water from the well to wipe us down with wet towels. We all were staying downstairs, and she kept the parlor stove going all night.

Dad’s Uncle Joe came a couple of days before Christmas. Dad sent word through Grandpa Hunsaker that all of the family were pretty sick. Uncle Joe was doctor to most of the people in the western part of Jasper County around Wheeler, and to his family too, though they lived mostly in the northeastern part of the county. The moment he stepped inside the house he said, “This place is too closed up and hot. You’ve made a brooderhouse for germs here. We’ve got to open the doors and windows and let the fresh air clear things out.”

Uncle Doc and Mamma went around and opened the windows and doors for the cold air to blow through the house. With the cold air and shivering, we all felt even more miserable. He listened to our chests with his stethoscope, and said he heard the grippe but no pneumonia, and pronounced us “as good as could be expected.” After he left, Mamma kept the house open as long as she could stand it, then shut it up again,  and fired up the stove “to keep us from shivering to death,” she said. I thought that if the flu didn’t kill us the cold would, and I started to wonder about Uncle Joe.

One night Mamma was up all night with Earl. I heard her say she didn’t know whether he would make it through the night. I was afraid. I watched her take all the covers off and all his clothes off and put him in the metal laundry tub with a bucketful of cold water. Then she wiped him down and put the plaster back on his chest, and talked quietly to him so that I could not hear. Earl didn’t seem to hear either. She made some weak tea and tried to get us to drink. She went out and got an old  hen and made chicken soup, and baked some bread and slathered it with butter and tried to get us to eat. That was how we spent Christmas that year. Every one of us was in the only bedroom downstairs or lying around the parlor. Dad didn’t have the strength to go into the woods to find a cedar tree to decorate. I didn’t feel like going either. I hadn’t used an ax to chop down anything bigger than a jimson weed anyway. We were all still coughing.

I began to eat before anyone else did. I could even feel a little hungry again. We were just glad that Earl was beginning to be strong enough to cry. Then three days after Christmas Mamma went to bed. By the next evening she was gone.

“Mable, don’t leave me! I’m so sorry! What am I ever going to do? Don’t go!” I heard Dad crying out in the bedroom. Chlora and Earl and Pearl and I listened and whimpered and looked at each other with big eyes. Grandma Mollie was in the kitchen, and she came and took us away from the bedroom door back into the kitchen, where Mary was tied into a high chair, and baby Alonzo was in his little drawer, the bottom one from the dresser. “Your mamma is gone. My only daughter,” Grandma said. “Now we will have to pull ourselves together and go on living.”  Grandpa Hunsaker was outside on the porch, smoking his pipe as he sat on one of the ladder back chairs he had dragged out there from the kitchen. He climbed onto the seat of the buck wagon, and urged his horses toward Hidalgo, ten miles west, where there was an undertaker,
so he could buy a coffin to bury her.

A little ghost story

29 Wednesday Oct 2014

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Twenty-four years ago we bid farewell to Jan’s father Lyle Kleinlein after a year long illness with advanced colon cancer. We were there when he died, and I got to say to him, “Go on ahead, Lyle; we will come soon to join you,” at which he relaxed and stopped struggling to breathe. He had asked me to officiate at his funeral, preaching on forgiveness (which is the only reason our family had been able to come together), while his step-son, Edsel, also a minister, would speak about his practical joking and impish sense of humor. The funeral went well on a perfect May morning. Hours afterward Nathan and I left Jan at Mt. Sterling. We drove home, and I realized that the watch that Lyle had given me years before was missing. I had taken it off as I drove and put it in the car’s ash tray. It was not there. Nathan helped me search the car and the things I had already taken into the house, but it was nowhere to be found. We gave up and, hungry, went to the refrigerator. There the watch sat where neither of us had put it.

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