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1918, the worst Christmas ever (from Out of My Hands: Stories of Harold Chapman)

16 Tuesday Dec 2014

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Dad hadn’t stayed far enough away from the man who was sick with the flu but still on his feet. Dad began to complain of aches in his arms and legs, and then chills, and his cough sounded deeper and more persistent. Then Chlora and I got sick  too. Then Mary, our two year old toddler. And three year old Pearl and her twin brother Earl. Mamma  tucked us in bed, made mustard plasters for our chests, and brought in cold water from the well to wipe us down with wet towels. We all were staying downstairs, and she kept the parlor stove going all night.

Dad’s Uncle Joe came a couple of days before Christmas. Dad sent word through Grandpa Hunsaker that all of the family were pretty sick. Uncle Joe was doctor to most of the people in the western part of Jasper County around Wheeler, and to his family too, though they lived mostly in the northeastern part of the county. The moment he stepped inside the house he said, “This place is too closed up and hot. You’ve made a brooderhouse for germs here. We’ve got to open the doors and windows and let the fresh air clear things out.”

Uncle Doc and Mamma went around and opened the windows and doors for the cold air to blow through the house. With the cold air and shivering, we all felt even more miserable. He listened to our chests with his stethoscope, and said he heard the grippe but no pneumonia, and pronounced us “as good as could be expected.” After he left, Mamma kept the house open as long as she could stand it, then shut it up again,  and fired up the stove “to keep us from shivering to death,” she said. I thought that if the flu didn’t kill us the cold would, and I started to wonder about Uncle Joe.

One night Mamma was up all night with Earl. I heard her say she didn’t know whether he would make it through the night. I was afraid. I watched her take all the covers off and all his clothes off and put him in the metal laundry tub with a bucketful of cold water. Then she wiped him down and put the plaster back on his chest, and talked quietly to him so that I could not hear. Earl didn’t seem to hear either. She made some weak tea and tried to get us to drink. She went out and got an old  hen and made chicken soup, and baked some bread and slathered it with butter and tried to get us to eat. That was how we spent Christmas that year. Every one of us was in the only bedroom downstairs or lying around the parlor. Dad didn’t have the strength to go into the woods to find a cedar tree to decorate. I didn’t feel like going either. I hadn’t used an ax to chop down anything bigger than a jimson weed anyway. We were all still coughing.

I began to eat before anyone else did. I could even feel a little hungry again. We were just glad that Earl was beginning to be strong enough to cry. Then three days after Christmas Mamma went to bed. By the next evening she was gone.

“Mable, don’t leave me! I’m so sorry! What am I ever going to do? Don’t go!” I heard Dad crying out in the bedroom. Chlora and Earl and Pearl and I listened and whimpered and looked at each other with big eyes. Grandma Mollie was in the kitchen, and she came and took us away from the bedroom door back into the kitchen, where Mary was tied into a high chair, and baby Alonzo was in his little drawer, the bottom one from the dresser. “Your mamma is gone. My only daughter,” Grandma said. “Now we will have to pull ourselves together and go on living.”  Grandpa Hunsaker was outside on the porch, smoking his pipe as he sat on one of the ladder back chairs he had dragged out there from the kitchen. He climbed onto the seat of the buck wagon, and urged his horses toward Hidalgo, ten miles west, where there was an undertaker,
so he could buy a coffin to bury her.

Stopping at a green light

21 Tuesday Oct 2014

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I had pulled to a stop at the stoplight and sat for a few seconds before I realized that I had stopped for a green light. I was actually looking at the red light at the next intersection a block away when I stopped. My light was green and had been green all along. 

Fortunately no one was behind me. If someone had been, I am sure he would have let me know that I was stopped at a green light. People honk and do rude things when they have less reason. But this time they would have properly honked me into awareness. As it was, I finally woke up to what I was doing. 

Why would I have stopped for the next light instead of the one immediately ahead? I was looking too far ahead, responding to the next light instead of my own. When I got there, that light had actually turned green too. I had anticipated stopping there too soon, and when I got to that point there was no need to stop. 

I had gotten ahead of myself. I had allowed a more distant signal to control immediate responses, instead of paying attention to what was immediately in front of me. I was living too far into the future, and the future was not what I thought it would be.  

I wonder what fearful expectations those stoplights might represent to us– diseases, accidents, misfortunes, calamities? When does fear take control and make us stop where we should be going? When does skepticism or cynicism keep us from moving ahead because we have stopped too soon? When does a poor experience become a block to the future instead of a learning experience to help us do better? 

We turn for inspiration to one who knowingly kept his own death in front of him throughout his journey, but did not let it bring his work or love for others to a premature end. It could have brought him to a stop, but instead he insisted on moving ahead, not only for himself, but for all who would follow him, a permanent green light. 

Not that every light I come across is now green. I will wait my turn, but for the time being I remember to look for the light where I am, not where I expect to be. There will be plenty of time for the future, when it gets here.

Sweating copper pipes

16 Thursday Oct 2014

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Twelve out of fourteen sweated copper joints held perfectly. Two leaked with a tell-tale seep from one, and a fine spray mist from the other. In some matters twelve out of fourteen is a good score. In plumbing it doesn’t count for much.

This was my first serious attempt to solder copper pipes and brass fittings in order to install a new shower in our home. A skeptic had asked me whether I was a Dagwood Bumstead type of plumber. As you may recall Dagwood always managed to make a worse leak out of a minor one, and finally Blondie would have to call the plumber to repair the damage. I have had reasonable success with drains, and compression fittings and threaded pipes, but this application called for soldered copper pipes, which challenged me to try to do something I had not done before.

The home repair manuals and video guides make it look easy, and for the most part it is, if one can keep a flaming torch aimed in the right direction without staring a fire in the insulation and wood framing, and develop a sense of when the pipes are hot enough to melt the solder, and balance the torch in one hand while keeping a steady hand to skim the melting solder all around the joint to be fitted. In other words it takes some art and experience. So Jan awarded me some points for getting twelve out of fourteen, but the shower still was not functional.

In one case the water was easily drained and I could proceed with a second attempt to seal the joint. In the second the repair was more difficult, involving removal of a section, including a well-soldered joint, and starting over with some new tubing and fittings.

I suppose that I am about 12/14 of the way through my life’s expected days. There is still a lot to do, and some challenges seem intractable. Like my work with copper fittings this is no time to congratulate myself on finishing twelve out of fourteen, when the entire project is not yet complete. But when can life be considered complete? There are always more people to serve, including a new generation that is just beginning, and more problems that arise as people try to surmount the obstacles that come at each stage of life. Still there must be a time when one admits that one has done enough, at least in this situation, in this way of doing things, with what talents or time one has to do it. So I suppose I  am 12/14 of the way through, and the last two tests appear as hard or more so than the first twelve.

Some of what is left to do will mean simply continuing to do what I know how. But I will also have to take apart and redo in a different way some of the things done earlier in order to finish well. I have to keep learning right up to the last, for life changes as people and their expectations change, and there are more and different demands now than there were when I started. Still the fact that I have had twelve successful experiences gives me confidence in God’s grace that there will be at least two more.

Persistent cockleburs

15 Wednesday Oct 2014

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Who has ever walked through a field without getting cockleburs on pants and socks? Or let a dog run loose through a wild prairie area without having it come back with knots of hair so entangled with those pesky burs that they had to be cut out? Those horsepill-sized ovoid balls bristle with a hundred stiff fibers each so they attach to any hair or fiber that passes by. Thus the seed travels to distant points and plants itself wherever the carrier finally succeeds in dislodging it. So effective and persistent is this method of connection that it inspired the invention of velcro. Even those things that irritate us can teach us. 

Cockleburs are sturdy annuals that grow rapidly into thick stalks that branch out into shrubs. Their broad leaves provide a small tree of shade for the little animals of the field, but they crowd out the less durable row crops that farmers value, and they provide a challenge to the combine at harvest. Cutting those weeds out of soybeans and corn used to provide a steady income to us row-walkers during June and July of each year, but in the last two decades a series of chemicals have replaced the labor intensive method of extermination. And drilled beans and narrow-rowed corn have made row “walking” more challenging! (I can’t forget velvetleaf, smart weed, pigweed, ragweed, various thistles, milkweeds, and other “offenders” who each deserve their own memorials.) Nevertheless cockleburs thrive. Partly this is due to the need to time spraying appropriately to match their early development. Partly it is due to the ingenious design of the seeds themselves to include time-release germination.  

Every cocklebur produces seeds that germinate at one year, two year and three year intervals. If you really want to get rid of it, your plan must include a long-term execution. Again we must marvel at the intricacies and sophistication of nature. Often it suggests design and pattern as a counterpoint to accident and happenstance. We marvel at these small revelations and jump ahead in thought to the Designer in the faith that our lives too may prove sturdy and resilient, when the final pattern becomes visible. 

So we take our lessons from this inspiration for velcro. Can we be as persistent in our faith, and in our attachment to things that carry us farther than mere passing whim, and in our patience to begin from scratch again another year regardless of how much endures from last year’s efforts?

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