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My total experience of being visited by a minister in a hospital

19 Sunday Apr 2015

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A License to Preach

Monkeys see, hear, speak no evil, Bangra.comThirty-five years ago, at the age of thirty-three, my symptoms of heart failure were severe enough to send me to the local hospital for a day in the intensive care unit and a couple more days of observation. As a substitute for a vacation or a few days off, I do not recommend the experience. The challenge of it arose, not so much from the repeated punctures and the shaving of my hairy chest for the required tests, nor the problem of trying to rest when one is awakened every hour by a nurse, but mostly from the anxiety and uncertainty about what would become of my wife and two small children if their breadwinner would lose his job and his life. I was then a minister serving a small but growing church. There was plenty to think about at the time.

While I was in the hospital a fellow minister came to call. This was my first and only time to be visited by a minister while I was in a hospital. For three previous surgeries I was mostly unconscious and did not “have” a minister nearby. I had many experiences of visiting people in hospitals by that time, but none of being visited. He was, shall we say, a very traditional pastor. He had a routine that involved a greeting, a reading from the Psalms (He read Psalm 146 to me. I did not know why, and he did not wait for me to ask why he had chosen it. I just wondered afterward if there was some hidden message that he had for me.) When he finished the Psalm, he started to pray—for me, I think—though I did not remember afterward what he prayed, because I was still thinking about the Psalm. Then he said good-bye, and exited the room.

There were a million things I wanted to talk about, but I decided then it would probably not be with him. His routine and the reasons for it were probably honed over his many years of experience, and he may have been trying to be very considerate of my needs for quiet, undisturbed by the emotions or exertions of conversation about my precarious situation. A month later, after I had returned to my daily schedule, I met him in the course of course of our common duties. We talked about nothing in particular, as if nothing had happened.

A good walk spoiled and “The Bagger”

17 Friday Apr 2015

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cropped-circledance.jpgI suppose I should apologize to all of our golfers for my denigrating comments, including the Mark Twain quote about golf as a good walk spoiled. Those who choose to live close to golf courses as I have should be careful about making fun of it. I learned a when we rented the movie “The Legend of Bagger Vance.” Golf movies can be amusing, like “Tin Cup,” or poignant and inspiring like “The Babe” [Didrickson Zaharias], but they don’t necessarily make you want to play the game.  “The Legend” is downright spiritual, that is s-p-i-r-i-t-u-a-l. It makes me want to take back everything I said about golf.

I learned from the character Hardy Greaves that golf is “the only game I know where you can call a penalty on yourself, if you’re honest.” This the hero does, to his own disadvantage and credit. This the person of integrity does, in the honesty and integrity of regular self-examination and confession. No one will know, all of the sympathetic admirers say, as if one can hide from truth oneself and still be satisfied to win.

Or as Bagger Vance said, it is “a game that can’t be won, only played.” So the objective is to find your true swing and to become fully aware of the landscape. Such goals amount to a vocation, a calling. They amount to life itself., the race to be run, the path to be walked, the play to be acted, the game to be played. And the purpose is not to win, as if winning is a final achievement that can be possessed, but a certain quality to be experienced and shared with a good measure of consistency and submission along the way.

We do like to exaggerate the meanings of the things we invent and invest in, don’t we? Golf, baseball, etc. And yet in everything we do, when we do it with concentration and diligence, we do find meanings that surprise and enlighten us. Play golf then, or some other pastime that can become an obsession or a deliverance. Or watch movies, read, run, boat, play cards, dance, sing… and all those other things that have been denigrated from time to time, because they can get one “carried away.” Look inside at what happens inside when you do. And remember that “Bagger” will always be there, watching.

Bread from Heaven

14 Tuesday Apr 2015

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IMG_0002My mother collected recipes and recipe books. I have not tried to count them all. She did not discriminate. The oldest recipes from the 19th Century and the early part of the 20th give only a hint at quantities, temperatures and times, but there are many of them, and she had fun trying to use them. There are Jewish, German, and Greek recipes, Swedish and Southern, Native American and Afro-American, East Indian and Thai, Chinese and Polynesian.

There are collections of recipes for special needs– diabetic, weight loss, heart disease, busy people with no time to cook, people cooking alone for themselves, cooking for large groups, cooking for huge groups, cooking for dainty delicate affairs. There are collections of recipes for special people– what old Nels Petersen liked, what neighbor Sara Mae liked, what sisters Bernice and Dorothy and Fiana liked, what sons David or Ernie liked (Gary liked everything). There are privileged recipes, bound with promises to guard them as a secret.

There are collections of recipes from every church and organization that ever sold a recipe book within earshot. There are collections for hunters with their wild game and scavengers with their wild plants, rich tastes from the Ritz, the Waldorf and the White House and tastes from the poor making do with what was available, from Shoo-fly pie to Hardscrabble pudding. What do you do with animal brains, livers, kidneys, feet, gizzards or blood? Here there are lots of different and conflicting answers!

Dozens of dedicated cooks could start now and cook all day for the rest of their lives and not even prepare a fraction of the  foods that are represented in that collection. What can I do with them all?

They are a monument to a passion, a devotion, a desire to serve and a record of accomplishment. Recipes record history, but they plead for the future. No other person can contain so many, even if an exceptional person did gather and succeed with many.

Scatter them! Send them every direction! Let the variety of people who receive them mirror the variety who made them. So much abundance and so much pleasure has to be shared. And one person still stands behind them all.

Why is it that the food I miss the most and find irreplaceable is her simple yeast bread?

When we became foreigners and the children of wandering Arameans

09 Thursday Apr 2015

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When we lived in Minonk, Illinois, which is smack in the middle of… nowhere, and all the work of Sunday morning was done, Jan and I sometimes took our two teenagers for a get-away lunch to the nearest fast food stop, which was ten miles south at Dairy Queen, El Paso. On this particular Sunday, I got in line with the orders in mind, and stood behind a man who became increasingly disgruntled, as the famiIy in front of him tried to decipher the menu and communicate their food orders with their broken English.

Ironic, I thought, that a place named El Paso could not handle Spanish. The menu design did not help much, as the pictures did not correspond with anything printed nearby, so the process was taking awhile. Sunday mornings were usually uplifting, peaceful, and energizing, so I was in no hurry, enjoying the children’s interplay with their parents, and their struggle understanding what they were actually ordering.

Mr. Impatience Next-in-line would have none of it. His muttering under his breath grew louder and soon his swearing was loud enough for everyone nearby to hear. He turned back to me, plainly seeking support for evicting the blank, blank “foreigners, Mexicans.” “Where do they get these people, anyway?”

I put on my blank face and said what first came to mind, “Mah atah rotzeh? Ani lo yodeah,” in my best conversational Hebrew (which is to say, “What do you expect? I have no idea.”). The man turned red, turned around, and didn’t say another word. It wasn’t long before he got to place his order, and after a few moments, he had it in hand and left the restaurant.

We ate in peace, enjoying each other and the lovely family nearby who were discovering their strange and not particularly healthy or appetizing new foods.

Come to Life Again…May 14, 1901

02 Thursday Apr 2015

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The Pike County Democrat, May 15, 1901, Luna mothcarried this story under the heading “Come to Life Again:”

A dispatch from New Salem under date of May 14 tells the following story of the supposed death and coming to life of a prominent lady of that village: This community has been startled by the apparent death of a well known woman and the return to life of the supposed corpse. Mrs. Anna Bell, daughter of the late Thomas Gray, a former treasurer of Pike County, and one of the most prominent women in this community has been very ill for some time and all hopes had been given up for her recovery. Mrs. Bell, a pious Christian woman, had herself given up all hope, and was calmly awaiting the end. She bade her family and friends good-bye while she still had strength to talk. Sunday she passed into a trance, which was pronounced death. The doctors were summoned, and after a close examination they said she was dead. There was no pulse and no perceptible beat of the heart. Neither did she breathe. The usual tests were made, the tests that are generally regarded as infallible, and all indicated death. A lighted candle held before her mouth and nostrils did not flicker in the least. The lighted candle was held back of her hand, and there was no dim light between the fingers. There was no doubt that she was dead, and while the family mourned, preparations were made for the funeral. The undertaker was summoned to prepare the body for burial, and it was decided that the funeral should be held Tuesday. The body grew cold while the preparations for the funeral went on, but after several hours it became warm again, and then the supposed corpse gave signs of returning life. The undertaker was sent home and the physicians were again called, and after several hours more Mrs. Bell returned to consciousness. She is still alive but is very low and weak. The family is rejoicing.[i]

[i] The Pike County Democrat, Pittsfield, Illinois, Volume XLIV, Wednesday, May 15, 1901, page 2. The Barry Adage also carried the story.

Willie Ann (Anna) Bell was the grandmother of Glen Hillmann, who was living with her at this time. Glen Hillmann was the grandfather of Janet (Kleinlein) Chapman.

The Long Walk Home… April 1, 1925

02 Thursday Apr 2015

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Spring was on the way again, and we were busy with the preparations. Grandma supervised the planting of the seed trays again, but she did not come out to watch the garden being plowed.

Our neighbor Elza Warfel lived a mile north of us. He came to the house on Thursday, March 19, saying he had been hearing some news and wanted to make sure we knew about it. A horrible tornado had ripped through southern Illinois just sixty miles south of us. The tornado had been worse than any storm on record.

“Even worse than the tornado that hit Mattoon and Charleston in 1917?” Grandma asked. She marveled that any storm could be worse. Nearly a hundred people had died and hundreds of homes and businesses had been lost back then. Grandma had known some of the people affected. It had been so close to home, and familiar places had disappeared.

“This is so much worse than that, people are wondering if it is a sign of the end,” Mr. Warfel said. The tornado had traveled nearly three hundred miles from Missouri through Illinois into Indiana. It hit Murphysboro, West Frankfort, and dozens of smaller towns, farms, and schools. It traveled fast, during the afternoon when everyone was busy and going about their regular jobs. A thousand people may have died, more thousands injured. Thousands of homes were gone. No one had ever seen such a storm.

“It strikes the just and the unjust,” Grandma said quietly. “In an hour when no one expects it.” And she closed her eyes and I think she may have been praying.

Why wasn’t there any warning?” Grandpa wanted to know. “They have telegraphs, and telephones along the railroad tracks, and people can see what’s happening. Why don’t they tell the people ahead that something’s coming, so they can find shelter?”

“I don’t know,” Elza said. “The government says they don’t want to alarm and frighten people, but people do need a warning. It seems that times are getting worse and worse. Things are changing.”

Grandma shed tears for the suffering she continued to hear about. The death toll reached seven hundred people, with fifteen thousand homes destroyed. We were only a few miles away, but we did not know what to do to help. She was small enough to start with. She seemed to shrink before our eyes, except for the enlargement of her legs and feet. Grandpa and Chlora wrapped her legs and feet with white gauze as the doctor had told them to do, but it didn’t seem to help much.

A week and a half later, in the evening, Grandma announced softly that it was time for her long walk. We looked at each other, puzzled, but no one asked her what she meant. She asked Mary to read to her from her old bible, the Twenty-third Psalm, which Mary did, stumbling over some of the words and needing Pearl’s help. Grandpa needed to help her move from her easy chair in the parlor into the downstairs bedroom. She didn’t wake up the next morning. Grandma died on April 1, 1925. We thought it odd that she died on the day everybody called “April Fools Day.” She could never tolerate fools.

“Grandma enjoyed these last few months, didn’t she?” Mary said.

I pictured her at the Christmas tree. “I guess she did,” I said to Mary.

The undertaker came from Hidalgo, bringing a casket, and set up the casket on a stand in the parlor. Family and neighbors came from all over the neighborhood , bringing food, and visiting through the evening, and some stayed up through the night, as we prepared for the funeral the next day.

Brother Hutson and Brother Ward and other elders of the church came and prayed with us during the evening, and they returned in the morning when we closed the casket. They walked with us as my two uncles, three cousins and I carried Grandma’s  casket to the black funeral carriage pulled by two black Belgian horses. We followed the carriage in Grandpa’s Model T. Other cars and horse-drawn buggies followed us as we drove the three and a half miles toward Aten Cemetery It was a slow ride through Hidalgo, and then we turned right on the dirt road that led to the woods northwest of Hidalgo. Her father, Solomon Cooper, had been buried back in 1899– after the service we found his old  tombstone. Grandpa Lon said he would be buried there, too, right next to Grandma. Aunt Allie and Uncle Bill said they had a plot right next to Grandma’s and Grandpa’s. It seemed strange that my Mom and Dad, and Grandma and Grandpa Hunsaker, would be in different places, but I guess it didn’t matter.

Still working at the Mattoon Shirt Factory… April 1914

02 Thursday Apr 2015

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Carl and Bessie- True Friends

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Rose Hill Ills, April 10, 1914 [To: Miss Bessie Coen, Mattoon Illinois, 3208 Marion St.]

Dear Bessie, I received your welcome letter this eve and was so glad to hear from you and was glad to hear that Mattoon was a dry city. They was some women voted down here. This is almost like winter again.  I suppose that you are at work now. It is just 20 till 1 clock now. I was sorry to hear that you couldn’t stand work but Bessie it hain’t the work. You don’t get enough pure air. I know that I couldn’t stand that kind of work very long. The best thing that you can do I think is just to quit working there. You had better quit work for a while any way. I would like to see you this Sunday but I cannot but I will try and come up before very long. Yes Bessie I will tell you all I know about that when I see you and how I heard it. Well I must close for this time. It’s work time. Grant is going up to Hidalgo this afternoon. With all kind wishes to you I will close for this time. Answer soon from your true friend Carl. Good bye.

Mattoon, April 17, 1914 [To: Mr. Carl Warfel, Rose Hill]

Dear Carl, I was so glad to get your letter, and would have answered sooner, but I have been very busy, working in the daytime and sewing at night. Well we have been having some beautiful weather, but I think we will have rain soon, it looks so cloudy tonight. They have all been talking about the factory closing, but I think it will be like it was before; it will just keep running.  Bonnie was laid off this morning and don’t have to go back until Monday. There are a lot of girls out of work there now. I suppose we cuff girls will have work as long as any is left. I haven’t had my glasses on since I wrote to you before. I would like to have seen you Sunday, but you could not have stayed very long and go back on that afternoon train.

Yes, Helen Walker speaks now. She stopped me this evening as I past there and talked quite a while. I like her mother very much. Clara Reed was over here Sunday evening but did not speak to me. She didn’t like it because I was out on the porch while she was over here. She told Bonnie she was afraid I would think that she wanted to make up. Well I must close for it is getting late. I hope that you can get to come up before very long. Hoping to see you soon I will close for this time, From Your True Friend, Bessie.

Bruce and Cathy Larson opened the door.

01 Wednesday Apr 2015

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Bruce and Cathy Larson opened their door… to their neighbors who were trying to maintain their homes in Chicago’s Lincoln Park neighborhood in the face of a major urban renewal project that would wipe out many blocks of moderate income housing and replace them with high income condominiums. They volunteered to work for the Independent Precinct Organization’s efforts to stand with these neighbors and protect their homes and investments in their neighborhood.

Bruce and Cathy opened their door… to me as I went door-to-door canvassing for support for the IPO’s project and resistance to the city plans. They served me herbal tea each time I stopped to talk with them. They loved their multi-cultural neighborhood, interesting people, old houses, and Chicago’s only authentic beer garden. They found the city plans to be disappointing and discriminatory, destroying a a rich culture and replacing it with a moneyed elite.

Bruce and Cathy opened their door…  to the Lutheran congregation they served by choice at the same time that they opened their congregation to  commitments to service with their Latin and African American neighbors, young and old, their old union-organizer, artistic,  political dissident, and nonconformist folks of all stripes.

Many people came in and out of their doors. I was privileged to be among them for several months.

One night, after they put their two small children to bed,  they opened their door…  to someone they probably knew, or whom they believed they should know, as Jesus would have opened the door, or as Jesus came to them in the form of someone in need. That night Bruce and Cathy were stabbed to death in their living room.

As far as I know, their murders, back in 1969, remain unsolved. Holy Week seems a good time to remember such a fine couple in Christian ministry, who opened the door of my heart to the needs of people I had not met before,  and to the sacrifices that sometimes are required in the attempts to  serve.

Making it to the hairdresser in a spring blizzard

31 Tuesday Mar 2015

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The snowstorm was one of those late season avalanches, in March of 1976, interrupting everyone’s expectations of what should be coming. The blooms of daffodils and forsythia  should be just around the corner, and everyone should be getting ready for spring garden parties and Easter egg hunts. Instead, two feet of wet snow clogged the streets and brought school schedules, traffic, factory production, business and everything else to a halt.

The siren of the local volunteer fire department and rescue squad alerted me to the mid-day need, when ministers and third shift workers were usually the only ones available to respond. Who knew who could show up today? Driving the car three blocks to the station was out of the question. Running would have to do. Fortunately the high carriage of the rescue truck would plow through the snow-filled streets better than most other vehicles. I met Mike and Bill at the station, we jumped into our gear, and headed  a mile east of the station, to a beauty salon from which the emergency call had come.

A block and a half short of the salon we came to a halt in a snow bank in the middle of the street. We bailed out of the truck, hauled our emergency gear cases, and trudged as fast as we could to the salon. The hairdresser-beauty operator met us at the door, frantic and near hysterical.

In the middle of the salon floor, flat on her back, lay a lovely woman, in her mid-thirties, neatly dressed in a spring dress, her skin shading to gray and blue, not breathing.  She had rushed several blocks through the snow to make her weekly hair appointment, arrived on time, and, after removing her light coat, but before she had a chance to sit in the salon chair, she had collapsed. How long had it been? To my mind it had been at least ten minutes from the time that the siren had blown, but who had kept track? When had she stopped breathing?

Bill was the old hand among us, but he had a cold, so giving advice and communicating by radio and telephone was his appropriate role. We had to proceed with checking her clear airway, beginning artificial respiration, and chest compressions, as we were trained to do in those days. Mike took the first turn in mouth to mouth, and I alternated with him, both of us losing the contents of our stomachs sometime during the next hour of intimate contact, with no response.

Bill tried valiantly to arrange for a snowplow and another ambulance to come in tandem, but in the end the best that he could get was the funeral director’s station wagon following the snowplow, after we had given up on the principle that “having started CPR, one did not stop.”

She had a husband and two young children. She was about the same age as Mike and I. What could possibly have been so important about her beauty appointment that she pushed herself through the snow for events that would most certainly be cancelled during the days to come, except for her own funeral? Neither Mike nor I were feeling particularly healthy at that point, not that we regretted trying to revive her, but everything we had done certainly proved futile.

That was how we prepared for spring, and Easter, that year. In the face of such futility and pointless death, we had to insist that sometime, somewhere, there had to be a point to our foolish living. We would look for it. Maybe we would find it.

Bessie Coen returns to Charleston to take care of children

18 Wednesday Mar 2015

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Charleston, Nov. 25, 1913 [Mr. Carl Warfel, Rose Hill] 

Dear Friend,

Vena and I have been thinking for quite a while, that we would write you a few lines, but kept putting it off and have not written; and now we are going to write you a Thanksgiving letter. I am at Charleston now. I’ve been sewing for Vena and Belle and we have been having some good times. Tonight there are eight children here, all under twelve years of age, and Vena and I have been entertaining them, while their parents are gone to the Opera. 

We have been making fudge and popping corn. They certainly seem to be enjoying themselves. I am so glad that we can make them happy. Vena and I sure had a grand time when we were down at your house, last July. I was working at a dress-maker’s shop here in Charleston, then we moved to Mattoon and I had to quit work and have not been working away from home since then. I do not like Mattoon, but I try to be satisfied, for it is so much better for papa, as he works there all the time. 

Well I must close, for there will be no room for Vena to write. This is so near Thanksgiving that we should be thankful for many things and most of all for all things good. I hope this will find you and all the rest well. Best wishes to all. Please answer. From Bessie Coen.

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